Dating telephone calls
Try not to let the call become regimented, with rules. Things will come up, and when they do, it's best not to have a punishable situation after missing out on a call.For instance, try to avoid having “one call in the morning” and “one call at night” rules. Calling your significant other is intended to enhance the relationship between you and your girl, not detract from it.When you say it to him, and others who are on the “inside” of your inside joke.But if you tried texting that to your new work associate, I'm sure it wouldn't be that funny.
In that regard, Will's use of electronics was the perfect match for my single mom lifestyle. Not only are they giving their honest reactions without having as much time as they need to think carefully about their next response, but when you hear someone's voice, there's a much more three dimensional discussion going on."Sounds great, I'll send you a text," he smiled with his perfect teeth. When Will wanted to tell me something longer in nature, perhaps a funny story or a date suggestion, his message was sent to me in an email (with links to potential restaurants and other date places.) I guess that's how his generation does things in the dating arena. The other thing was, if you were dating a guy, he would call you every night and the two of you would spend hours on the phone, just getting to know each other and never wanting to hang up. You really got a feel for the guy, and he didn't have time to think of a clever response via text.I started to reflect on my pre-marital dating days, which date back to 1999 and earlier. I can remember times when I'd get home from work and check my home answering machine (there wasn't even voice mail in the earlier years! He had to think on the spot and answer questions in an open, honest way. Other than for work, I don't talk on the phone unless it's my family or my boyfriend who is sitting in traffic going to or coming home from work.If you find a girl you really like, you're going to ultimately find yourself wanting to be yourself around her – probably after a few months of trying to impress her, treating every text-based-reply like your own wordsmith. Well, regularly enough so that you can maintain a relationship consisting of each other's real voices, without bordering on Italian/Jewish-mom-on-the-weekends status.At that point in the relationship, I urge you to call her. Find what works for you, or ideally, both you and your girl.